Father And Son Reunite After 37 Years [Video]

After 37 years apart, Cleveland resident Lamarr Mainor got the birthday surprise of his life when he was reunited with his father.  (more…)

A Mother Officially Sentenced to Jail for Refusing to Vaccinate Her Child

After a battling with the courts, Rebecca Bredow, who refused to vaccinate her 9-year-old son, has been officially sentenced to spend 7 days in jail. This is like a nightmare for all of those who do all they can to protect their children from vaccines.

Bredow’s ex-husband, James Horne, has been trying, for over a year, for her to vaccinate. He took her to court, even though he had previously signed a vaccine waiver for their son, for religious exemption.

Rebecca says that the courts didn’t really hear side, but ordered her to vaccinate, regardless of the fact that she is primary caregiver to her son. It’s been stated that she originally agreed to comply, but never did.

This mom stated that she’d rather go to jail than to go against her beliefs, so the judge slapped her with contempt of court for which she’ll be doing this 7-day stint. What will happen, once she’s released, is anybody’s guess, but it’s certain that many parents are rooting for her to continue to stand her ground.

What could be the worst to come out of this court case, is that it could all be out spite. It’s possible that the child’s father had such a drastic change of heart due to demands for child support from his ex-wife.

For a parent to put a child’s health at risk for a possible future play for sole custody, or joint custody, in order to avoid financially supporting the child, is disgusting. It’s bad enough that pharmaceutical companies put children in harm’s way, for financial gain, but to have a parent play into that for his own financial gain is unfathomable.

This is hopefully a wake up call to other parents who may feel secure with a current agreement, from their significant other, to not vaccinate. Moms and Dads may need to look into having something more solid than a waiver form or verbal agreement between you and the other parent to your child(ren).

You deserve to be mo better!

Barack & Michelle Obama Eyeing A Historic Apartment On New York’s Upper East Side

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Now that the time is coming closer to Sasha Obama to graduate from high school, the Obama’s have their eyes set on a historic building in Manhattan.  (more…)

Large Turnout For Kanneka Jenkin’s Funeral

Gospel music had to be played to drown out the mournful screams and sobs from many friends, relatives, and supporters who came out, dressed in purple, to lay 19 year old Kanneka Jenkins to rest.  (more…)

Danger Lurks In Hospitals For Black Babies

Only a few hours old, and already subjected to racism. Two Black infants have been abused and disrespected while in the care of trusted hospital nurses.

Treating a baby like a rag doll to the tune of 50 Cent, “In Da Club”, and calling a baby “mini Satan” while flipping the bird, are what we know for sure took place in a Navy hospital, where white nurses should have been providing care to infants.

As disturbing as the situation is, what’s even more horrifying is the thought of what they may have done off camera. The fact is that, we hope the Snapchat images show the extent of the violation, but only the babies and the offending nurses really know.

Hospital staff are entrusted with our babies when they’re out of our site. Unfortunately, the title of person says nothing about their mindset. We have no idea what they think of us, or our children, or how those thoughts will impact the care they give.

These aggressive acts against newly born infants is just another reason for more of us to engage in home births. Aside from the many benefits of having a child in your own home, or even a birthing center, the aspect of protection is major.

To find out more about this issue, and to learn about ways to find and choose a midwife for home birth, click here

What’s guaranteed is that this isn’t the first or last incident of transgressions against Black children, and it’s not the only hospital or medical facility. We owe it ourselves and our children to find other ways, including a return to the age-old practice of our ancestors.

You and baby deserve to be mo better!

Fantasia Blesses A Paralyzed Man With Her Vocals

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While visiting her brother in the hospital, Fantasia was able to bless another family with her vocals.

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Crowne Plaza Hotel Probed By Kenneka Jenkins’ Mother’s Lawyer & Investigator

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A lawyer and investigator representing the mother of Kenneka Jenkins visited the Crowne Plaza hotel Tuesday, where the teen was partying hours before she was found dead in a walk in freezer.  (more…)

SSSHHH….

There are often many things within in our lives that we deal with that bring about a certain level of shame or embarrassment. For instance, have you ever been sitting at a red light minding your own business with your finger knuckles deep in your nose and you look over and the driver next to you is literally staring at you, embarrassed much? Or have you ever been in class taking a test and the teacher catches you red handed staring a hole in your neighbor’s paper because you didn’t have a clue what the answers were? Sure, we all have experienced one of these things before, if not both. These things may bring about a level of shame or embarrassment but more than likely you could tell your friends about it and you guys would have a great laugh. On the other hand, there are things that bring about shame or embarrassment that we wouldn’t dare discuss with anyone. Maybe your father is someone that you have never met before and could possibly be your next door neighbor but you wouldn’t know it because you have literally never seen his face before. Maybe you’re 15 years old and have 3 younger siblings who you have to take care of yourself because your mother is too busy and concern with her “man” who has no consideration for you or your siblings. These things we do not dare speak about to anyone; in fact, we hold them in until the point that we drive ourselves insane. On the outside, we seem fine but we are literally dying on the inside. These mental issues are just a few of the things that we within the African American community are dealing with on a daily. And it is these things that we must begin to discuss.

Mental health within our community is something that is taboo or looked at like something that you do not discuss with others. We have been brought up to think that if one is seeking out the help of a mental health professional that one is “crazy” or “weak”, this is such a ridiculous way of thinking. This idea that you must be “crazy or weak” to be going to see a mental health professional is killing our community and it must come to an end immediately.

Life is hard no matter what background one comes from but especially if one is coming from our community. We can argue all day about what the root cause of our condition is but that is for another day (don’t get me started, lol). Today we must begin to focus on ourselves and begin to become our own saviors, instead of blaming others for our problems and expected them to get us out of them. This begins with us talking, and not to those around us who are dealing with the same issues that we are, this will gets us nowhere. It’s no secret the problems that we are dealing with in our communities, lack of education, which leads to low paying jobs, which leads to poverty, which turns into hopelessness. This hopelessness turns into us giving up and turning to things that make us “feel good”, like sex, drugs, and alcohol. We turn to these things because they are all escapes, from the real things that we are going through that we desperately don’t want others to know about.

Try this story on for size.

Here we have a 15-year-old African American girl whose father is incarcerated and she hasn’t seen since she was 3 years old. Her mother is too busy for her because she is too caught up in living her “own life”. She had her daughter when she was 15 and feels she never had an opportunity to live “her” life. So, the girl turns to a young man who may be dealing with similar issues so they confide in each other emotionally but because they are too young to understand these emotions they believe that they are in love and began to have sex. Well, she becomes pregnant, she drops out of school in order to take care of the child that is inevitably on the way. The young man who is just as much responsible for the pregnancy as she is disappears literally because he has never had a father around so he has no clue of how to be one himself. The girl has the child who is a beautiful little baby boy but being a teenage mother she is barely making it. She is on her own and has little to no education. So what does she do, turn to drugs and alcohol to ease the pain that she is feeling of not being able to adequately provide for her son, that she so deeply loves. Now, here we have a young man whose father has never been around and mother couldn’t cope with the pain of being alone, so he, in turn, is also alone. It is this loneliness that kills. How does this kill exactly you might ask? Well, the young boy because of his loneliness turns to some “friends’ who are involved in selling drugs, they show him and “love” so he begins to sell drugs too. Then the young man meets a girl who he eventually gets pregnant and the day the baby is born the young man is gunned down in the streets due to a drug deal went bad and the cycle continues.

This story could have had a different outcome. If in the beginning that 15-year-old girl would have sought out the help of a mental health professional to talk to instead of the young man. This story could have turned out totally different. If that young lady seeks out the guidance of a mental health professional who specializes in these sorts of cases she could have begun to heal that pain and loneliness that she was feeling. Instead of getting pregnant and dropping out of school she could have gained control of her thoughts and feelings. She could have eventually graduated from high school and enter into college or into the workforce. Once she had gained control of her mental health she would be able to choose a young man for herself who is responsible and in the same good place mentally that she is in. They could acquire gainful employment, get married and begin to have children together, cycle ended.

It is impossible for us to deal with these sorts of issues alone; the only outcome of doing so will be a negative one. The story may not end in such a manner as I just previously described but we all know stories that have ended this way. As a matter of fact, the story very well could be our story, if so it’s never too late to seek the counsel of a mental health professional. Why is it that the African American community has such an issue with seeking this professional help that I speak of? There are many different answers to this question but my answer is, often times the professional that we seek out doesn’t look like us, therefore, we don’t trust them. This is very understandable. We are most comfortable with those who are like us this is just a fact of life. Well, there are those who look like us out there to help. It is up to us within the mental health profession to make ourselves available and become a staple of the community. Our minds are the only thing that can raise us up from the condition that we are in. We must begin to lift this idea that speaking about our problems to mental health professionals makes us “weak” or “crazy”. As long as we have this mentally towards mental health, I hate to say it but we will continue to remain in the state of mind that we have been in for WAY too long.

If you find yourself in a place where you feel that you are all alone with dealing with the issues of life and things are beginning to become too stressful for you to handle. Email me at ahumbledsinner2528@gmail.com and I’ll help you get in touch with someone in your area that can help you find the resources that you need.

 

Can You Submit?

Most likely you can, and do. Most likely you have, or you’ve had, a job in which you had to submit to a superior and/or to customers/clients. You’ve likely been submissive to police or to the IRS, and even to your children or your pet.
 
 
 
However, when it comes to a spouse, many act like they’re too good to compromise, too good to take heed, too good to back down even when they know they’re wrong. Of course, he’s no authority over her, and she’s no authority over him, nor should either be.
 
 
 
To submit isn’t only about authority. Submission and subordination aren’t always synonymous. To submit to someone doesn’t automatically mean he or she is superior in rank, because it can actually be about yielding to the will, desires, intentions of a person. It can simply be the act of holding off your wants or needs, to allow for those of the other person.
 
 
 
In a marriage, neither should be the authority, but rather each a partner. Each taking equal responsibility, equal opportunity, equal rights in the relationship. As with any partnership, including business partnerships, the wills of the people involved may align at times, but there are times when they may clash.
 
 
 
The ego is usually at play when someone attempts to pull rank in partnerships. It’s difficult for people, when they feel like getting what they want is being threatened, but a hallmark of a truly mature person is recognition it’s not all about you. Those who want a relationship to be all about them, probably shouldn’t get married. They aren’t partner material.
 
 
 
So, when there is disagreement in a marriage, what can be done if neither is willing to submit, or when one person is always doing the submitting? Should the partnership be dissolved, or shall one just concede to submit on a permanent and regular basis to keep the peace? In either of those situations, you no longer have a partnership. In the latter, what develops is a dictatorship in which one who used to be a partner, now takes the role of a subordinate. This is not balanced.
 
 
 
Two who become one shouldn’t have a relationship where one is superior to the other, but rather respectful enough of each other wherein there is fairness and compromise and all efforts to arrive at a solution that can be the most beneficial for the whole. If a person wants to get married to have someone be subordinate, then, again, they shouldn’t get married. That person should just get a dog. Part of marrying someone is understanding that teamwork makes the dream work.
 
 
 
If one basketball player hogs the ball, it’s safe to say that team isn’t a winning team, even if they win some games. The game should be played based on the strengths of the team members. Sometimes, a team mate has to acknowledge that another is better at something. He might really want to take a shot, but he knows he’s better at layups than 3-pointers, so he passes to the best 3-point shooter available. Sometimes, though, it’s just about giving that team partner a fair chance at the rim.
 
 
 
Sometimes, submission might be about seeing a greater need for the other person to have that chance, because perhaps it will help him/her fulfill something important to them, or it will help emotionally. It takes a big person to step back and allow that, rather than rather than acting solely on their own desires.
 
 
 
Another important aspect is leadership. Please understand that leader does not mean superior. It only means that one is leading. To lead, others have to be willing to follow, not be forced to, intimidated into, or manipulated to do it. That typically requires someone to see that you have specific skills to lead him/her with. Keep in mind that team leaders can, and do, change. It’s the same in a marriage. One may lead at one point in time, or for certain situations, and the other at another point.
 
 
 
Bottom line is that there are many things at play, many aspects, much to be considered in a marriage, especially when you want to have one that is successful. Success in a marriage isn’t about who’s on top, or how many years you’ve tolerated each other, or even just about how much you love each other. A successful marriage is one in which both people support and help one another, respect each other, plans together, uplifts one another, tackles obstacles strategically, … gets over their egos and submits to other.
 
 
Healthy relationships are part of a healthy lifestyle. You deserve to be mo better!!

“Mind Health” in the African American community!!!

Everything we do we think in our minds first. There is no action that takes place that the mind does not first give thought to. Our minds are the driving force directing us toward our future. Before I sat down to type this post I first wrote it down but before that I thought about it and now here you are reading it. Reading what was once in my mind and is now a reality. This is how EVERYTHING was and is created.

Our mind is the most powerful thing that we as human beings have. In fact our mind is the most powerful thing on planet earth today. Literally everything you are seeing with your eyes right now was once a thought in some human being’s mind first. Gain control over your mind and take control of your life. So if this is so why is it that we pay so little attention to our Mental Health or “Mind Health” as I like to call it. When I speak of “we” I am speaking to the African American community, my community.

The word “mental” simply means “mind” so from here on let’s call it “Mind Health”. When one is sick with an ailment of the body that person goes to see a physician or a doctor as we call them in order to see what the problem is within their body. If this person goes long enough without seeing a doctor for their ailment the condition could worsen and become a bigger problem than it initially was. If this is the case when one becomes physically ill, what makes us believe that this same criterion is not to be applied with our “Mind Health”.

We must begin to be honest and start to admit to ourselves that yes life does get difficult sometimes and that we are not as strong as we tend to put on. Once we admit this to ourselves then we can begin the process of “Mind Healing”. One myth that hangs around our community is that the “pastor” can fix it I’ll just go talk to him. Now don’t get me wrong I understand this line of thinking, in fact have acted out on it myself. What I had to realize and what we must all come to realize is that God has equipped people in the world to help us specifically with our “Mind Health” and those are the people we should seek when dealing with life and all the problems that it brings.

The African American community, my community must put an end to this stigma that we have placed on “Mind Health”. It is literally killing us and continuing the poverty and mis-education we see within our communities. We are literally “trapped” by our own minds which in turn produces a lack of vision which is what is keeping us in continuing poverty and mis-education.

For example, it is this poverty that keeps us from being able to pay our bills on time which brings anxiety, it is this anxiety of not being able to pay our bills on time that brings about a depression and it is this state of being depressed that brings about suicidal thoughts all things that plaque our communities in high numbers.

All these things are things that “ALL” take root in our Mind. We MUST lift up our mind and our condition will soon follow, for it is this and only this that will bring about the change that I know we so all desperately want to see.